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Unconscious Competence—How Overthinking Blocks Greatness

Stylized, poster-style image of Michael Jackson and Bruce Lee posing together.

True mastery begins where thinking ends.

Bruce Lee. Michael Jackson.
Different worlds. Same truth:
Don't overthink. Don't perform. BECOME.

At the highest level, you're not following moves or reciting steps.
You're not even doing it.

You ARE it.

"Don't think. FEEL. It is like a finger pointing away to the moon.
Don't concentrate on the finger or you will miss all that heavenly glory."
— Bruce Lee, Enter the Dragon

"Thinking is the biggest mistake a dancer could make.
You have to feel. You become the bass. You become a fanfare.
You become the clarinet and the flute and the strings and the drums."
— Michael Jackson

There's no ego. No strain. No self-consciousness.
Just being. Just truth.
Just the moment, expressing itself—

THROUGH YOU.

"To express yourself in freedom, you must die to everything of yesterday.
From the 'old', you derive security; from the 'new', you gain the flow."
— Commonly attributed to Bruce Lee

"I feel blessed to be the instrument through which music flows.
It's as if the song was already written—before I was born.
I'm just the vessel. It doesn't come from me.
It's God's work. I'm just the messenger."
— Michael Jackson

This is effortless, raw AUTHENTICITY—received from above.
Not just in art,
but in conversation, in tension, in connection.
With people. With pressure. With women. With LIFE.

That kind of awareness doesn't push itself through.

It FLOWS.

"I don't force it.
I just step into it.
It's like stepping into a river and joining the flow.
Every moment in the river has its song."
— Michael Jackson, Moonwalk (1988)

"Empty your mind. Be formless, shapeless, like water…
You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup…
Water can flow or it can crash.
Be water, my friend."
— Bruce Lee

Water doesn't resist. It adapts.
It doesn't react. It RESPONDS.
It meets reality without resistance—
and moves perfectly through it.

This is UNCONSCIOUS COMPETENCE in motion:
Like a waking dream—fluid, present, FREE.

No mind. No mask. No pretense.
Just clarity. Just rhythm.
Just YOU—fully present.

Fully ALIVE.

"Honestly expressing yourself—now, that is very difficult to do. It's easy to put on a show, to be cocky, or to show some fancy movement. But to experience oneself honestly, not lying to oneself, and to express myself honestly—now that, my friend, is very hard to do."
— Bruce Lee

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No More "Pink Pill"

By Ryan M. Maes

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"When men follow female social media influencers for masculine advice, they subconsciously elevate women to a position of authority, reinforcing a feminine-primary, submissive frame within themselves—one that feminizes them in an insidious, nearly undetectable way."
— The God Pill

You've been surrounded by female voices your entire life.

From the moment you were born...

Your mother.

Your nurse.

Teachers.

Girlfriends.

Wives.

Even the media and entertainment around you, shaped by a FEMINIZED lens.

When it comes to being a MAN, do you really need to hear from another woman?

It's time to break free from female "advice gurus," gentlemen.

Remember:

Women have no barometer for the 👉 MALE EXPERIENCE 👈; they simply parrot what they’ve learned from MEN.

So get off the tit.

No more "Pink Pill" content!

To truly develop, you must break free from this pervasive feminine influence—

—and seek the guidance, wisdom, and counsel of MEN who genuinely understand what it means to be a MAN. 💪

"I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve."
— 1. Tim. 2:12-13, ESV

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From Distance to Desire: How to Make Her Miss You

By Ryan M. Maes

A cold, distant woman in the backward embrace of another man, his identity obscured behind her.

"Hey, I was dating this girl, and she asked for space, so I went no contact for nine days. She finally reached out, saying she had changed her mind, but she seemed distant, contacting me only once every week or so. The last time she wanted to talk, I missed her call. When I called back, we talked for five minutes, and I told her we'd talk later because I was busy. Two days later, I texted her about meeting up. It's been two weeks, and I haven't heard from her. I haven't called her either because she seems distant, and I felt I should mirror her actions to maintain polarity. What should I do?"
— Jack Zamàñi, private group member

Here's some food for thought: 👉 LET HER GO 👈.

The writing is on the wall.

She's no longer invested in you.

She's no longer interested.

She no longer CARES.

Perhaps you've heard the expression, "Out of sight, out of mind."

At some point, she LOST her attraction and is now simply USING YOU for a free dopamine hit of attention and validation.

That's reality.

"Actions are the greatest indicator of intent, so judge by actions, not words. Behavior is the only reliable evidence of motivation. By her fruits, you will recognize her."
— God Pill Maxim

Listen, I Get It...

We men are STUBBORN, forever determined to push forward—to rise to the challenge, hoping against hope—even when it defies our better judgment.

So, if you're still determined to press on, what actions can you take?

At this stage, I recommend shifting to "STRATEGIC PRESENCE."

That's right—contrary to popular opinion, it may actually be beneficial to INCREASE your presence—

—just don't become TOO present.

The key here is 👉 BALANCE 👈—

—and the good news is, there's a way to achieve it.

Here's What I Suggest:

Reach out to her ONCE with something short, simple, and sweet.

Something that doesn't require investment, commitment, or even a response—just something LIGHT-HEARTED and FUN.

Something that triggers POSITIVE EMOTIONS.

Nothing heavy.

Don't overthink it.

This is just to get the ball rolling...

After that:

⚠️ DO NOT call her.
⚠️ DO NOT text her.
⚠️ NOTHING.

Simply wait...

⚠️ ZERO CONTACT! ⚠️

"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."
— Song. 2:7, NIV

Hear me now: A woman is like a cat; you cannot negotiate her FEELINGS or DESIRES.

You must "release her" and let her return of her OWN VOLITION.

If she doesn't, she lacks 👉 GENUINE DESIRE 👈—

—and it's best to AVOID women who lack genuine desire anyway.

It's an UPHILL BATTLE, and trust me—that's a hill you don't want to die on.

SO, BE PATIENT!

After planting the seed, you must give it TIME TO GROW. 🌳

It won't be easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is—so give her the gift of MISSING YOU.

Use absence to increase RESPECT and HONOR—

—and only re-engage ⚠️ AFTER ⚠️ she RESPONDS.

Remember, if she's into you, she'll find a WAY; if not, she'll find an EXCUSE.

"When a woman has genuine desire, she will make it obvious; there is no guesswork."
— God Pill Maxim

Here's the CRITICAL PART:

When (and if) she replies, greet her with, CONFIDENCE, GOOD VIBES, and POSITIVE ENERGY.

❌ DON'T bring up the past.
❌ DON'T mention her distant behavior.
❌ DON'T ask why she took so long to respond.

There’s a time and place for that, but not here.

"Women want to play the game; they don't want to be told they are playing a game."
— Red Pill Maxim

Lay off the "tactics" and don't pretend to be busy.

Simply welcome her with positivity, optimism, and GOOD SPIRITS—

—but don't immediately push for the meetup.

Again, DO NOT push for the meetup.

Pushing too soon will only serve to PUSH HER AWAY.

It's PREDICTABLE and BORING—she's seen it all before.

So, play it cool, brother.

Appeal to her EMOTIONS—

—and prove you can engage WITHOUT an agenda.

"A genuine Christian is desirable by default, since his highest priority isn’t women—but God."
— God Pill Maxim

Remember:

Absence is a tool—

—but it's not the ONLY tool.

Balance is CRITICAL.

And you BALANCE hot and cold polarity by staying focused, patient, and silent until you hear from her ("absence")—

—but responding with ENGAGEMENT, POSITIVE VIBES, and GOOD SPIRITS when you do ("presence").

This, my friend, will make her MISS YOU. 💪

"Pursuing a woman who is distant and closed off is kind of like showing up at your favorite restaurant a minute after they close. Let's say they serve until 8 p.m., and you show up at 8:01. When you walk in the door, they say something like, 'Oh, so sorry, but we're actually closed. Our kitchen is closed, so please come back tomorrow.' Now, just like in a romantic relationship, if you were in this situation in real life, it would be absolutely ludicrous and entitled to insist that you be served. It's only a minute after closing time, but it is technically after closing time. Whether it's an inch or a mile, out of bounds is out of bounds, and expecting that an exception is going to be made for you is a little narcissistic and absurd. That said, it would be just as ludicrous and entitled for the restaurant to expect that you're not going to eat until tomorrow just because their kitchen is closed. So, what do you do in this real-life situation? You say, 'Oh, absolutely, completely understand. Enjoy the rest of your night. I'm gonna see what else is open at this hour, and I'll come back another time.' And you take your hunger where people are willing to serve you. It's that simple."
— Dr. Orion Taraban, PsycHacks

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How to Communicate Like a High-Value Man:

By Ryan M. Maes

A muscular, handsome man radiating confidence and charm, often epitomized as a "Chad."

"You have to learn how to talk and not be a nerd. You can't be nervous. You must watch your energy; you can't be too thirsty. You must know how to say the right things and lead the conversation... I have just described game."
— The God Pill

Setting the Stage for Engagement and Reconnecting:
- ❌ Instead of saying, "Hey, what's up?"
  ✅ Say, "The most amazing thing just happened..."
- ❌ Instead of saying, "How have you been?"
  ✅ Say, "I've missed our conversations."
Initiating Action and Creating Opportunities:
- ❌ Instead of saying, "When are you free?"
  ✅ Say, "I'm free on Tuesday or Thursday."
- ❌ Instead of saying, "What are you doing tonight?"
  ✅ Say, "I have tickets to a show this evening. Join me?"
- ❌ Instead of saying, "What do you want to do?"
  ✅ Say, "I have a plan..."
Constructive Communication and Collaboration:
- ❌ Instead of saying, "I don't know what to do."
  ✅ Say, "I could use your insight on this."
- ❌ Instead of saying, "I hate my boss."
  ✅ Say, "How would you approach a situation like this?"
- ❌ Instead of saying, "I've had a bad day,"
  ✅ Say, "I've faced some hurdles, but I can't complain."
Expressing Empathy and Flexibility:
- ❌ Instead of saying, "Sorry I didn't respond."
  ✅ Say, "It's been a crazy day, but I'm free now."
- ❌ Instead of saying, "What's wrong?"
  ✅ Say, "I'm here for you if you need to talk."
Positive Reframing:
- ❌ Instead of saying, "Why are you so flaky?"
  ✅ Say, "I appreciate your effort, but I made other plans."
- ❌ Instead of saying, "Why are you treating me this way?"
  ✅ Say, "I have rules and boundaries."
- ❌ Instead of saying, "Stop playing games."
  ✅ Say, "I enjoy a challenge."
Closing with Quiet Confidence and Grace:
- ❌ Instead of saying, "Did you get my message?"
  ✅ Say, 👉 NOTHING 👈.

"If a picture is worth a thousand words, silence is worth a thousand pictures."
— The God Pill

Remember:

A MAN OF ABUNDANCE never responds with bitterness, hostility, anger, or resentment—even when she's flaky or plays mind games.

Keep your emotions in check and your eyes on—

YOUR MISSION! 💪

"You shall make your mission, not your woman, the focus. When you make your woman the focus, she becomes an idol, which is sin."
— The God Pill

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Assert Your God-Ordained Headship Authority

By Ryan M. Maes

A bride and groom standing together in a lush, vibrant flower garden, surrounded by colorful blooms and natural elegance.

"The order of operations: God in Christ > Christ in man > man over woman > woman over children."
— The God Pill

At The God Pill, we believe that marriage is a TYPOLOGY or SYMBOL of the relationship between CHRIST and His CHURCH.

We believe, therefore, that the church is the BRIDE OF CHRIST (Eph. 5:25-27; 31-32)—

—and that a wife must SUBMIT to the "word" of her husband (Eph. 5:24).

Now, genuine submission involves one party YIELDING to another's AUTHORITY, creating a DISTINCTION between the one who submits and the one who is submitted to.

Therefore, if the church (the bride) submits to the WORD of Christ (the Husband), Christ's Word must be SUPERIOR to that of the church—

—and, by extension, the Husband must be the 👉 HEAD 👈 of the wife.

"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."
— Eph. 5:22-24, ESV

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"Give Me a Helper, Not a Competitor"

By Ryan M. Maes

An attractive young businesswoman standing confidently among towering skyscrapers, exuding professionalism and poise.

"All men desire peace, but very few desire those things that make for peace."
— Thomas à Kempis

So you say that you want peace, do ya?

Then, stay away from so-called "strong and independent" ambitious women—

—because these women are more likely to be masculine, assertive, argumentative, and CONTENTIOUS—the type of women who will make you want to live in a desert... or on the corner of a housetop.

But MEN OF ABUNDANCE avoid these women—they opt for tranquility over turmoil.

They crave a SANCTUARY, not a storm.

They want a HELPER, not a hindrance.

They value COOPERATION, not competition.

They seek RESPECT, not ridicule.

They desire PEACE.

Men with OPTIONS avoid "strong and independent" women, because attractive women don't behave like attractive men.

Again, attractive WOMEN don't behave like attractive MEN.

Remember:

👉 Men settle where they find PEACE. 👈

You can hang your hat on it. 😉

"An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones."
— Prov. 12:4, NASB 1995

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Is Your Jealousy Harmful or Healthy?

By Ryan M. Maes

A jealous man lurking in the shadows, his eyes fixated as he observes his woman flirting with another man.

"My friends, I need help to take on the jealousy I've been feeling lately—two things: one is, I let a spirit of 'oneitis' consume me with a lady at church. I saw her with her new boyfriend at church today. Secondly, this new boyfriend (who I know is a doofus and a douchebag) has another girlfriend that he is showing off on social media. Any quick devotionals or encouragement?"
— Gabriel Lee DiMatteo, private group member

There are two types of jealousy: a GOOD kind and an EVIL kind.

Again, there are two types of jealousy: "right" and "wrong," protective and possessive.

"I'm not jealous; I'm territorial. You have two choices: either I care about you and I'm territorial, or I don't care about you and I'm not."
— Andrew Tate

Type 1 Jealousy (The "Bad" Kind):

Jealousy over something that does not rightfully belong to you is called envy, which is SINFUL and COVETOUS—because it isn't yours.

You should strive to acknowledge, admonish, and avert this type of HARMFUL JEALOUSY, and encourage others to do the same.

Deuteronomy 5:21 states: "You shall not covet your neighbor's wife; and you shall not desire your neighbor's house, his field, his male servant, his female servant, his ox, his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor's."

Why?

Because these things ARE NOT YOURS.

Type 2 Jealousy (The "Good" Kind):

Jealousy over the things that do, in fact, rightfully belong to you is REASONABLE, JUSTIFIABLE, and PERMISSIBLE—because these things are YOURS.

Remember: even God is JEALOUS.

The Bible says, "For the Lord, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God" (Ex. 34:14).

Therefore, if God is both perfectly good and JEALOUS, then it stands to reason that jealousy, in the proper context, is also 👉 GOOD 👈—because only a coward would not protect what is his.

"No one is good except God alone."
— Mark 10:18, ESV

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Sacrifice Today, Reap Tomorrow: Why Your Dreams Demand Discipline

By Ryan M. Maes

A successful young man in a bustling big city, dressed sharply in a business suit, exuding confidence and ambition.

"All his life has he looked away... to the future, to the horizon. Never his mind on where he was. Hmm? What he was doing. Hmph! Adventure. Heh! Excitement. Heh! You are reckless!"
— Master Yoda

You have a choice to make: either sacrifice temporary fun for your permanent dreams or sacrifice your permanent dreams for TEMPORARY FUN.

Many are willing to sacrifice their permanent dreams for temporary fun—

—but you must be willing to sacrifice temporary fun, which is fleeting, for your PERMANENT DREAMS.

"So then, let us not be like others, who are asleep, but let us be awake and sober."
— 1 Thess. 5:6, NIV

As a man, your ability to DELAY GRATIFICATION is critical for LONG-TERM success in any endeavor in life.

Mastering this ability will teach you the fundamentals of MASCULINITY, which are self-sacrifice, discipline, perseverance, and doing the hard work—regardless of how you feel.

"Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope."
— Rom. 5:3-4, ESV

Remember:

Anything WORTH HAVING almost always hurts you upfront but then gives you long-term pleasure—

—but anything that gives you pleasure upfront almost always HURTS YOU long-term.

In other words, pain in the front end equals PLEASURE in the back end—

—and pleasure in the front end equals PAIN in the back end.

"They do it to [for] a prize that will fade away, but we do it for an eternal prize."
— 1 Cor. 9:25, NLT

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