What Pain Will It Cost You if You Don't Change?

"So as a shy guy, two years ago for the first time ever I approached a girl that I was interested after so many pushes my friends gave me. Unfortunately, she was extremely rude and defensive to me. Despite the way she was acting, I was thinking she was interested too. Definitely not ideal to say all girls are like that, but I guess I won't approach anyone again. That was my first and last time I have ever approached a girl. Nowadays, when I feel a girl might be interested to me, I just ignore them. I am kinda disappointed with their behaviour. I mean why being rude when you kindly just say no and you will never see me again."
— Tn Sam

Once, when I was six years old, a horse stepped on my foot—and it hurt. A lot. Therefore, I will NEVER enter the presence of another horse. "I will not get on that horse!"

Do you grasp how absurd that sounds?

Men were made to adapt and overcome, to expand in the face of tribulation—not shrink and shrivel.

In other words, men exist to OVERCOME adversity, not to be overcome by adversity.

Let it sink in that your past does not equal your future.

Again, your past does not equal your FUTURE.

It may feel like it's you versus the world—but it's really just you versus yourself.

So, pick yourself up. Dust yourself off. Set your emotions aside. And be a man.

👉 GET BACK ON THAT HORSE 👈

Because pain is inevitable—

—but suffering is VOLUNTARY.

Remember, frustration isn't fatal: it merely signals your strategy isn't working. So, STAY STRONG—

—and don't let the warfare around you become the warfare within you.

"To bear trials with a calm mind robs misfortune of its strength and burden."
— Seneca The Younger

"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek."
— Joseph Campbell

"Most of the grand truths of God have to be learned by trouble; they must be burned into us with the hot iron of affliction, otherwise we shall not truly receive them."
— C. H. Spurgeon

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