"Hey, I was dating this girl, and she asked for space, so I went no contact for nine days. She finally reached out, saying she had changed her mind, but she seemed distant, contacting me only once every week or so. The last time she wanted to talk, I missed her call. When I called back, we talked for five minutes, and I told her we'd talk later because I was busy. Two days later, I texted her about meeting up. It's been two weeks, and I haven't heard from her. I haven't called her either because she seems distant, and I felt I should mirror her actions to maintain polarity. What should I do?"
— Jack Zamàñi, private group member
Here's some food for thought: 👉 LET HER GO 👈.
The writing is on the wall.
She's no longer invested in you.
She's no longer interested.
She no longer CARES.
Perhaps you've heard the expression, "Out of sight, out of mind."
At some point, she LOST her attraction and is now simply USING YOU for a free dopamine hit of attention and validation.
That's reality.
"Actions are the greatest indicator of intent, so judge by actions, not words. Behavior is the only reliable evidence of motivation. By her fruits, you will recognize her."
— God Pill Maxim
Listen, I Get It...
We men are STUBBORN, forever determined to push forward—to rise to the challenge, hoping against hope—even when it defies our better judgment.
So, if you're still determined to press on, what actions can you take?
At this stage, I recommend shifting to "STRATEGIC PRESENCE."
That's right—contrary to popular opinion, it may actually be beneficial to INCREASE your presence—
—just don't become TOO present.
The key here is 👉 BALANCE 👈—
—and the good news is, there's a way to achieve it.
Here's What I Suggest
Reach out to her ONCEwith something short, simple, and sweet.
Something that doesn't require investment, commitment, or even a response—just something light-hearted and fun.
Something that triggers positive emotions.
Nothing heavy.
Don't overthink it.
This is just to get the ball rolling...
After that:
⚠️ DO NOT call her. ⚠️ DO NOT text her. ⚠️ NOTHING.
Simply wait...
⚠️ ZERO CONTACT! ⚠️
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."
— Song of Solomon 2:7 (NIV)
Hear me now: A woman is like a cat; you cannot negotiate her feelings or desires.
You must "release her" and let her return of her OWN VOLITION.
If she doesn't, she lacks 👉 GENUINE DESIRE 👈—
—and it's best to AVOID women who lack genuine desire anyway.
It's an UPHILL BATTLE, and trust me—that's a hill you don't want to die on.
SO, BE PATIENT!
After planting the seed, you must give it TIME TO GROW. 🌳
It won't be easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is—so give her the gift of missing you.
Because—ultimately—the most compelling way to capture her attention is to take YOURS away.
Let your absence increase her RESPECT and HONOR—
—and only re-engage ⚠️ AFTER⚠️ she RESPONDS.
Remember, if she's into you, she'll find a WAY; if not, she'll find an EXCUSE.
"When a woman has genuine desire, she will make it obvious; there is no guesswork."
— God Pill Maxim
Here's the CRITICAL PART
When (and if) she replies, greet her with confidence, good vibes, and positive energy.
❌ DON'T bring up the past. ❌ DON'T mention her distant behavior. ❌ DON'T ask why she took so long to respond.
There's a time and place for that, but not here.
"Women want to play the game; they don't want to be told they are playing a game."
— Red Pill Maxim
Lay off the "tactics" and don't pretend to be busy.
Simply welcome her with positivity, optimism, and good spirits—
—but don't immediately push for the meetup.
Again, DO NOT push for the meetup.
Pushing too soon will only serve to PUSH HER AWAY.
It's predictable and boring—she's seen it all before.
So, play it cool, brother.
Appeal to her emotions—
—and prove you can engage without an agenda.
"A genuine Christian is desirable by default, since his highest priority isn't women—but God."
— God Pill Maxim
Remember
Absence is a tool—
—but it's not the ONLY tool.
Balance is CRITICAL.
And you BALANCE hot and cold polarity by staying focused, patient, and silent until you hear from her ("absence")—
—but responding with engagement, positive vibes, and good spirits when you do ("presence").
This, my friend, will make her MISS YOU. 💪
"Pursuing a woman who is distant and closed off is kind of like showing up at your favorite restaurant a minute after they close. Let's say they serve until 8 p.m., and you show up at 8:01. When you walk in the door, they say something like, 'Oh, so sorry, but we're actually closed. Our kitchen is closed, so please come back tomorrow.' Now, just like in a romantic relationship, if you were in this situation in real life, it would be absolutely ludicrous and entitled to insist that you be served. It's only a minute after closing time, but it is technically after closing time. Whether it's an inch or a mile, out of bounds is out of bounds, and expecting that an exception is going to be made for you is a little narcissistic and absurd. That said, it would be just as ludicrous and entitled for the restaurant to expect that you're not going to eat until tomorrow just because their kitchen is closed. So, what do you do in this real-life situation? You say, 'Oh, absolutely, completely understand. Enjoy the rest of your night. I'm gonna see what else is open at this hour, and I'll come back another time.' And you take your hunger where people are willing to serve you. It's that simple."
— Dr. Orion Taraban, PsycHacks
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"Muscular Christianity" promotes physical manliness, virtue—a code of honor marked by loyalty, integrity, and bravery—and masculinity of character.
Followers embrace the principle that a man's physical capabilities should be developed and disciplined not solely for personal gain but to defend those in need, advance virtuous causes, and subdue the earth by the divine mandate given to men.
"Bodily exercise, when it is well ordered, is also prayer by means of which you can please God our Lord."
— Attributed to Saint Ignatius of Loyola (1491–1556)
The tenets of Muscular Christianity are as follows:
A man's body is given to him by God;
It is to be trained;
It is to be brought into subjection;
It is then to be used for the protection of the weak;
For the advancement of all righteous causes;
And for the subduing of the earth, which God has given to the children of men.
"Take care of your body as if you were to live forever; and take care of your soul as if you were to die tomorrow."
— Attributed to Saint Augustine (354–430)
Remember
"God revealed Himself in the Bible pervasively as king not queen; father not mother. The second person of the Trinity is revealed as the eternal Son not daughter; the Father and the Son create man and woman in His image and give them the name man, the name of the male… God has given Christianity a masculine feel."
✠ P.S. If you are tired of getting talked over, ignored, or treated like you are harmless, it is time to face the truth: you taught people they could get away with it. Not because you are weak—you kept the peace instead of drawing a line. The Kingdom Council 🏛️ is where you break that pattern and start carrying yourself in a way that commands respect. Because the world does not honor quiet resentment—it honors honest conviction.
"You have to learn how to talk and not be a nerd. You can't be nervous. You must watch your energy; you can't be too thirsty. You must know how to say the right things and lead the conversation... I have just described game."
— The God Pill
Setting the Stage for Engagement and Reconnecting
❌ Instead of saying, "Hey, what's up?" ✅ Say, "The most amazing thing just happened..."
❌ Instead of saying, "How have you been?" ✅ Say, "I've missed our conversations."
Initiating Action and Creating Opportunities
❌ Instead of saying, "When are you free?" ✅ Say, "I'm free on Tuesday or Thursday."
❌ Instead of saying, "What are you doing tonight?" ✅ Say, "I have tickets to a show this evening. Join me?"
❌ Instead of saying, "What do you want to do?" ✅ Say, "I have a plan..."
Constructive Communication and Collaboration
❌ Instead of saying, "I don't know what to do." ✅ Say, "I could use your insight on this."
❌ Instead of saying, "I hate my boss." ✅ Say, "How would you approach a situation like this?"
❌ Instead of saying, "I've had a bad day," ✅ Say, "I've faced some hurdles, but I can't complain."
Expressing Empathy and Flexibility
❌ Instead of saying, "Sorry I didn't respond." ✅ Say, "It's been a crazy day, but I'm free now."
❌ Instead of saying, "What's wrong?" ✅ Say, "I'm here for you if you need to talk."
Positive Reframing
❌ Instead of saying, "Why are you so flaky?" ✅ Say, "I appreciate your effort, but I made other plans."
❌ Instead of saying, "Why are you treating me this way?" ✅ Say, "I have rules and boundaries."
❌ Instead of saying, "Stop playing games." ✅ Say, "I enjoy a challenge."
Closing with Quiet Confidence and Grace
❌ Instead of saying, "Did you get my message?" ✅ Say, 👉 NOTHING 👈.
"If a picture is worth a thousand words, silence is worth a thousand pictures."
— The God Pill
Remember
A MAN OF ABUNDANCE never responds with bitterness, hostility, anger, or resentment—even when she's flaky or plays mind games.
Keep your emotions in check and your eyes on—
YOUR MISSION! 💪
"You shall make your mission, not your woman, the focus. When you make your woman the focus, she becomes an idol, which is sin."
— The God Pill
✠ P.S. If you are tired of overthinking every word, freezing up around women, and replaying conversations in your head, this is the truth: women do not feel attraction to hesitation—they respond to conviction. The Kingdom Council 🏛️ trains you to stop talking yourself out of the moment and start speaking with clarity, presence, and authority. Because if you cannot lead a conversation, you will not lead her.
"The order of operations: God in Christ > Christ in man > man over woman > woman over children."
— The God Pill
At The God Pill, we believe that marriage is a typology or symbolof the relationship between CHRIST and His Church.
We believe, therefore, that the church is the Bride of Christ (Eph. 5:25-27; 31-32)—
—and that a wife must SUBMIT to the "word" of her husband (Eph. 5:24).
Now, genuine submission involves one party yielding to another's authority, creating adistinction between the one who submits and the one who is submitted to.
Therefore, if the church (the bride) submits to the WORD of Christ (the Husband), Christ's Word must be superior to that of the church—
—and, by extension, the Husband must be the 👉 HEAD 👈 of the wife.
"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."
✠ P.S. If you are tired of being walked on, biting your tongue, and letting things slide because you fear conflict, hear this: a man who will not draw a line ends up living under everyone else's. The Kingdom Council 🏛️ trains you to stop shrinking and to start leading. Because respect follows strength—not silence.
"Divine authority is superior to all human authority, making Scripture the highest authority."
— The God Pill
At The God Pill, we hold to sola scriptura, not church tradition—
—and we believe that the church is the Bride of Christ (Eph. 5:25-27; 31-32).
We also believe that a wife must SUBMIT to the "word" of her husband (Eph. 5:24)—
—and that genuine submission involves one party yielding to another's authority, creating a distinction between the one who submits and the one to whom they submit.
Therefore, if the church (the bride) submits to the WORD of Christ (the Husband), then Christ's Word must supersede church tradition—
—and His Word, as revealed in Scripture, must be greater than Apostolic authority—
—and His divine authority must be superiorto all human authority, making Scripture the 👉 HIGHEST AUTHORITY 👈 (2 Tim. 3:16-17).
"See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ."
✠ P.S. If you are wrestling with God and questioning whether your faith is real or merely inherited, this is not doubt—it is pressure testing your faith. When churches soften and Christian men grow weaker than the world they are called to confront, faith becomes a battleground. This brotherhood restores Biblically masculine conviction and forges faith that holds under fire—inside The Kingdom Council 🏛️. Because a faith that cannot be tested cannot be trusted.
"It's possible to know just enough about a subject to think you're right, but not enough to know you're wrong."
— Neil deGrasse Tyson, American astrophysicist
If you've studied any subject to a moderate extent—and put in reasonable effort—you may know just enough to think you're right, but not enough to realize you're WRONG.
This creates a valley of false confidence.
This phenomenon, known as the Dunning-Kruger effect, occurs when a little knowledge leads to an overestimation of one's understanding or ability.
As you learn more, you realize you know 👉 LESS 👈 than you initially thought.
Your confidence dips—
—but as you continue learning, your understanding deepens, and—ultimately—you become competent enough to know whether you're RIGHT or WRONG.
"Unfortunately, what happens when men get exposed to the Red Pill is often what's called a Dunning-Kruger effect. It's the peak of 'Mount Stupid' because you don't really know what you think you know; you just know the bare level of it. So, men who are often the least competent or the least knowledgeable about something are exhibiting the most amount of confidence. So, when men are getting exposed to all this stuff, they're, you know, coming with this certainty about what they're talking about, but they don't really know what they're talking about."
✠ P.S. If you are tired of shouldering the weight of manhood alone—failing quietly, pretending you are fine, and telling yourself you will get it together tomorrow—this is the truth: isolation does not make men stronger; it makes them softer. The Kingdom Council 🏛️—Brotherhood of Kings is where men stop hiding behind excuses and choose discipline over distraction. Because a lone wolf does not grow stronger—he starves.
"Anybody can become angry—that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way—that is not within everybody's power and is not easy."
― Aristotle
Men today are REDEFINING terms.
They are saying that Jesus was the MEEKEST man alive—
—and what they mean by this is that He's some sort of SISSY, some kind of Gandhi, some type of Buddhist whipping boy—"you can hit me, but I'll never fight back."
"I'll NEVER raise my hand."
It's always this soft, LIMP-WRISTED nonsense.
These individuals frequently misquote verses about "turning the other cheek."
"Most morality is cowardice in the guise of morality."
— Friedrich Nietzsche, German philosopher
They become pacifists because they think that's what meekness is—
—and that's NOT what meekness is.
Meekness is not weakness.
Meekness is strength under control.
Again, meekness isn't weakness; it's strength under control.
Meekness is a man who can CRUSH YOU 💪, but he's got enough control over his spirit and emotions that he won't.
He could, but he WON'T.
The Bible says, "Be ye angry, and sin not" (Eph. 4:26).
Our Lord Jesus experienced anger, and yet He was without sin (Heb. 4:15).
He spoke as one with 👉 AUTHORITY 👈 (Matt. 7:23)—always humble yet confident, patient yet resolute.
—and that's where the VIRTUE lies.
Never mistake Christ's tolerance for ACCEPTANCE—
—or His patience for PASSIVITY.
"Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city."
— Proverbs 16:32 (ESV)
"Do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell."
✠ P.S. If you are tired of getting talked over, shrinking in conversations, and replaying what you should have said after the moment has passed, this is the truth: hesitation is not harmless—it trains others to lead while you follow. The Kingdom Council 🏛️ is where men drop the nice-guy mask and speak with clarity, confidence, and charisma.
"It doesn't matter how smart or reasonable you are. If the opposition is too stupid to understand, you'll never win. So do not speak in the hearing of fools, for they will despise the good sense of your words. If Jesus couldn't convince them, neither will you."
— The God Pill
The Bible warns that "everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak" (James 1:19), and that "the way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice" (Prov. 12:15).
As Lao Tzu eloquently said, "Those who know do not speak, and those who speak do not know."
So, I ask you: Are you following the way of a wise man—
—or of a FOOL? 🤪
"You cannot always be right; you should try being wrong sometimes because you might learn something."
— Johnny Depp
The Idiot Test
When presented with new information, do you listen to UNDERSTAND, or do you hear to RESPOND?
Is your first impulse to:
A) Point out the EXCEPTION?
or...
B) Understand the RULE?
Now, pause and examine yourself carefully: 🔎
Are you idealistic or realistic?
Is your approach based on logic and reasonor feeling and emotion?
Do you operate on probability and actuality or possibility and potentiality?
Do you embrace the norm or reach for the outlier?
Consider the time-honored phrase:
💡 "The exception proves the rule." 💡
Put another way, the exception is the reason the rule exists.
Again, the exception demonstrates why we have a rule.
And rules are 👉 IMPORTANT 👈.
"To every rule there is an exception—and an idiot ready to demonstrate it. Don't be the one!"
― Vera Nazarian, The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration
Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
― Proverbs 18:2 (ESV)
"If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet."
— Proverbs 29:9 (ESV)
Remember
What's more dangerous than believing something without evidence is rejecting the evidence in favor of what you believe.
So, sit back, relax, open your mind—
—and come to 👉 LEARN 👈, not to argue.
If your mind is already made up, my job is not to convince you; it is only to deliver the message.
"Learning without thinking is useless. Thinking without learning is dangerous."
— Confucius
"Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent."
— Proverbs 17:28 (ESV)
"And in them is fulfilled the prophecy of Esaias, which saith, By hearing ye shall hear, and shall not understand; and seeing ye shall see, and shall not perceive: For this people's heart is waxed gross, and their ears are dull of hearing, and their eyes they have closed; lest at any time they should see with their eyes, and hear with their ears, and should understand with their heart, and should be converted, and I should heal them."
✠ P.S. If you freeze under pressure—your chest tightens, your thoughts scatter, and you surrender the moment—this is not fragility; it is emotional volatility. Pressure does not break men—it exposes who is in control. A man who governs his reactions is dangerous: calm when others panic, deliberate when others unravel. The Kingdom Council 🏛️ trains you to remain dangerous under pressure. Because the man who controls himself does not just win the moment—he owns it.
