"Hey, I was dating this girl, and she asked for space, so I went no contact for nine days. She finally reached out, saying she had changed her mind, but she seemed distant, contacting me only once every week or so. The last time she wanted to talk, I missed her call. When I called back, we talked for five minutes, and I told her we'd talk later because I was busy. Two days later, I texted her about meeting up. It's been two weeks, and I haven't heard from her. I haven't called her either because she seems distant, and I felt I should mirror her actions to maintain polarity. What should I do?"
— Jack Zamàñi, private group member
Here's some food for thought: 👉 LET HER GO 👈.
The writing is on the wall.
She's no longer invested in you.
She's no longer interested.
She no longer CARES.
Perhaps you've heard the expression, "Out of sight, out of mind."
At some point, she LOST her attraction and is now simply USING YOU for a free dopamine hit of attention and validation.
That's reality.
"Actions are the greatest indicator of intent, so judge by actions, not words. Behavior is the only reliable evidence of motivation. By her fruits, you will recognize her."
— God Pill Maxim
Listen, I Get It...
We men are STUBBORN, forever determined to push forward—to rise to the challenge, hoping against hope—even when it defies our better judgment.
So, if you're still determined to press on, what actions can you take?
At this stage, I recommend shifting to "STRATEGIC PRESENCE."
That's right—contrary to popular opinion, it may actually be beneficial to INCREASE your presence—
—just don't become TOO present.
The key here is 👉 BALANCE 👈—
—and the good news is, there's a way to achieve it.
Here's What I Suggest
Reach out to her ONCEwith something short, simple, and sweet.
Something that doesn't require investment, commitment, or even a response—just something light-hearted and fun.
Something that triggers positive emotions.
Nothing heavy.
Don't overthink it.
This is just to get the ball rolling...
After that:
⚠️ DO NOT call her. ⚠️ DO NOT text her. ⚠️ NOTHING.
Simply wait...
⚠️ ZERO CONTACT! ⚠️
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."
— Song of Solomon 2:7 (NIV)
Hear me now: A woman is like a cat; you cannot negotiate her feelings or desires.
You must "release her" and let her return of her OWN VOLITION.
If she doesn't, she lacks 👉 GENUINE DESIRE 👈—
—and it's best to AVOID women who lack genuine desire anyway.
It's an UPHILL BATTLE, and trust me—that's a hill you don't want to die on.
SO, BE PATIENT!
After planting the seed, you must give it TIME TO GROW. 🌳
It won't be easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is—so give her the gift of missing you.
Because—ultimately—the most compelling way to capture her attention is to take YOURS away.
Let your absence increase her RESPECT and HONOR—
—and only re-engage ⚠️ AFTER⚠️ she RESPONDS.
Remember, if she's into you, she'll find a WAY; if not, she'll find an EXCUSE.
"When a woman has genuine desire, she will make it obvious; there is no guesswork."
— God Pill Maxim
Here's the CRITICAL PART
When (and if) she replies, greet her with confidence, good vibes, and positive energy.
❌ DON'T bring up the past. ❌ DON'T mention her distant behavior. ❌ DON'T ask why she took so long to respond.
There's a time and place for that, but not here.
"Women want to play the game; they don't want to be told they are playing a game."
— Red Pill Maxim
Lay off the "tactics" and don't pretend to be busy.
Simply welcome her with positivity, optimism, and good spirits—
—but don't immediately push for the meetup.
Again, DO NOT push for the meetup.
Pushing too soon will only serve to PUSH HER AWAY.
It's predictable and boring—she's seen it all before.
So, play it cool, brother.
Appeal to her emotions—
—and prove you can engage without an agenda.
"A genuine Christian is desirable by default, since his highest priority isn't women—but God."
— God Pill Maxim
Remember
Absence is a tool—
—but it's not the ONLY tool.
Balance is CRITICAL.
And you BALANCE hot and cold polarity by staying focused, patient, and silent until you hear from her ("absence")—
—but responding with engagement, positive vibes, and good spirits when you do ("presence").
This, my friend, will make her MISS YOU. 💪
"Pursuing a woman who is distant and closed off is kind of like showing up at your favorite restaurant a minute after they close. Let's say they serve until 8 p.m., and you show up at 8:01. When you walk in the door, they say something like, 'Oh, so sorry, but we're actually closed. Our kitchen is closed, so please come back tomorrow.' Now, just like in a romantic relationship, if you were in this situation in real life, it would be absolutely ludicrous and entitled to insist that you be served. It's only a minute after closing time, but it is technically after closing time. Whether it's an inch or a mile, out of bounds is out of bounds, and expecting that an exception is going to be made for you is a little narcissistic and absurd. That said, it would be just as ludicrous and entitled for the restaurant to expect that you're not going to eat until tomorrow just because their kitchen is closed. So, what do you do in this real-life situation? You say, 'Oh, absolutely, completely understand. Enjoy the rest of your night. I'm gonna see what else is open at this hour, and I'll come back another time.' And you take your hunger where people are willing to serve you. It's that simple."
— Dr. Orion Taraban, PsycHacks
✠ P.S. If this hit home for you, take a moment to leave feedback on our official Facebook page. Your voice strengthens the Brotherhood and helps us reach more men who need this. Support our mission—
"All men desire peace, but very few desire those things that make for peace."
— Thomas à Kempis
So you say that you want peace, do ya?
Then, stay away from so-called "strong and independent" ambitious women—
—because these women are more likely to be masculine, assertive, argumentative, and contentious—the type of women who will make you want to live in a desert... or on the corner of a housetop.
But men of abundance avoid these women—they opt for TRANQUILITY over turmoil.
They crave a SANCTUARY, not a storm.
They want a HELPER, not a hindrance.
They value COOPERATION, not competition.
They seek RESPECT, not ridicule.
They desire PEACE.
Men with OPTIONS avoid "strong and independent" women, because attractive women don't behave like attractive men.
Again, attractive women don't behave like attractive MEN.
Remember
👉 Men settle where they find PEACE. 👈
You can hang your hat on it. 😉
"An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones."
— Proverbs 12:4 (NASB 1995)
✠ P.S. If she is steering the relationship and you are just along for the ride, this is the truth: a man without boundaries does not lead—he gets led. The Kingdom Council 🏛️ trains you to rebuild frame, reclaim authority, and restore order before things spiral beyond repair. Because if you do not lead, she will not follow—she will take the throne.
"Actions are the greatest indicator of intent, so judge by actions, not words. Behavior is the only reliable evidence of motivation. By her fruits, you will recognize her."
— God Pill Maxim
As men, our deep attraction to particular women often blinds us to serious RED FLAGS.
When we're smitten, we'll tolerate an entire spectrum of poor behavior, last-minute cancellations, and unreasonable demands.
We'll even accept the lamest of excuses—no questions asked.
Sometimes, hoping against hope, we'll even believe the LIES.
"Beauty will cover a multitude of sins."
— God Pill Maxim
This is the consequence of putting women before God—of making them IDOLS—and deliberately giving ourselves over to "strong delusion."
You know you've done it.
"Sin will make you stupid."
— Steve Hill, Christian Evangelist
Remember
You shall make your mission, not women, the FOCUS.
When you make women the focus, they become idols, which is SINFUL.
So be a man after God's own heart, not a man after theirs.
"He must increase, but they must decrease."
Women are fleeting—
—but God is SUFFICIENT. 💪
"A genuine Christian is desirable by default, since his highest priority isn't women—but God."
✠ P.S. If you are angry, bitter, and wrestling with the realization that everything you believed about women was a lie, you are not falling apart—you are waking up. Red Pill Rage is not the destination. It is the fire that burns away illusion. The Kingdom Council 🏛️—Brotherhood of Kings is where that fire stops burning you and starts building you.
✠ P.S. If you are tired of mixed signals, mind games, and always feeling one step behind, this is the truth: confusion is a tactic. When you lose clarity, you lose frame. When you lose frame, you lose respect. The Kingdom Council 🏛️ is where men restore clarity and reclaim authority. Because a man who does not understand the game will always be played by it.
Actions express PRIORITIES—what is important to her and what is not.
So, examine her ACTIONS, not her words.
If her actions match her words—you can trust her.
If her actions do not match her words—you can't trust her.
Remember, if she's really into you, she'll find a way. If not, she'll find an excuse.
It's that simple.
When a woman has genuine desire, she will make it OBVIOUS: there is no guesswork.
"A good tree can't produce bad fruit, and a bad tree can't produce good fruit. A tree is identified by its fruit. Figs are never gathered from thornbushes, and grapes are not picked from bramble bushes. A good [woman] produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil [woman] produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What [she] says flows from what is in [her] heart."
✠ P.S. If you are tired of mixed signals, mind games, and never knowing where you stand with women, face the reality. Confusion keeps a man reactive, insecure, and off-frame. Men get played when they surrender clarity and refuse to lead. The Kingdom Council 🏛️—Brotherhood of Kings is where men lead from authority and reclaim frame—rather than chasing validation within hers. Because men who do not lead get led.
