Is Your Jealousy Harmful or Healthy?

"My friends, I need help to take on the jealousy I've been feeling lately—two things: one is, I let a spirit of 'oneitis' consume me with a lady at church. I saw her with her new boyfriend at church today. Secondly, this new boyfriend (who I know is a doofus and a douchebag) has another girlfriend that he is showing off on social media. Any quick devotionals or encouragement?"
— Gabriel Lee DiMatteo, private group member

There are two types of jealousy: a GOOD kind and an EVIL kind.

Again, there are two types of jealousy: "right" and "wrong," protective and possessive.

"I'm not jealous; I'm territorial. You have two choices: either I care about you and I'm territorial, or I don't care about you and I'm not."
— Andrew Tate

Type 1 Jealousy (The "Bad" Kind)

Jealousy over something that does not rightfully belong to you is called envy, which is sinful and COVETOUS—because it isn't yours.

You should strive to acknowledge, admonish, and avert this type of HARMFUL JEALOUSY, and encourage others to do the same.

Deuteronomy 5:21 states: "You shall not covet your neighbor's wife; and you shall not desire your neighbor's house, his field, his male servant, his female servant, his ox, his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor's."

Why?

Because these things ARE NOT YOURS.

Type 2 Jealousy (The "Good" Kind)

Jealousy over the things that do, in fact, rightfully belong to you is reasonable, justifiable, and PERMISSIBLE—because these things are YOURS.

Remember: even God is JEALOUS.

The Bible says, "For the Lord, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God" (Ex. 34:14).

Therefore, if God is both perfectly good and JEALOUS, then it stands to reason that jealousy, in the proper context, is also 👉 GOOD 👈—because only a coward would not protect what is his.

"No one is good except God alone."
— Mark 10:18 (ESV)

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