Choices & Sacrifices

Choose Your Hard

By Ryan M. Maes Leave a Comment

"Choose the hard that builds you, not the hard that breaks you."
— The God Pill

Staying fat is HARD. Getting fit is HARD.

CHOOSE YOUR HARD.

Grinding a 9-to-5 is HARD. Grinding for financial freedom is HARD.

CHOOSE YOUR HARD.

Walking up to her is HARD. Wishing you had is HARD.

CHOOSE YOUR HARD.

Living without God is HARD. Living wholly for God is HARD.

CHOOSE YOUR HARD.

Life is never easy—
it's HARD by design.

The only thing you must do is CHOOSE YOUR HARD.

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"I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live."
— Deuteronomy 30:19 (ESV)

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Will Abstinence Kill Our Intimacy?

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You're asking the wrong question.

The question isn't, "Will abstinence hurt our intimacy?" It's, "How do we honor and obey God?"

That's part of what it means to take up your cross. Following Christ means God gets your obedience—

—even when obedience costs you something you deeply desire.

A divided heart asks, "How much can I keep and still follow God?" A man after God's heart asks, "What does God require of me?"

And as the man, this starts with self-governance and responsibility—especially when the temptation isn't coming from you.

Often the hardest test comes when she loses her resolve, initiates, and pulls you toward the very thing you've both agreed to leave behind. Don't repeat Adam's failure: when she reaches for what God forbids, don't follow her into it.

Scripture says flee sexual immorality. Your job is to hold the line even when she wants to cross it. A disciplined man governs himself, covers his woman, and leads the relationship away from temptation rather than deeper into it.

As for intimacy: taking sex away may reveal that there's far more substance underneath your relationship than you realized—

—or it may reveal the harder truth: sex was doing the work of intimacy, masking how little substance the relationship actually has.

Either way, you need to know the truth before you put a ring on her finger.

And one thing even more important than the sexual question: you're both exploring Christianity. Before marriage, find out whether you're merely adopting Christian values or actually following Christ.

God first. Relationship second. Desire in its proper place.

"For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality."
— 1 Thessalonians 4:3 (ESV)

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Sacrifice Today, Reap Tomorrow: Why Your Dreams Demand Discipline

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"All his life has he looked away... to the future, to the horizon. Never his mind on where he was. Hmm? What he was doing. Hmph! Adventure. Heh! Excitement. Heh! You are reckless!"
— Master Yoda

You have a choice to make: either sacrifice temporary fun for your permanent dreams or sacrifice your permanent dreams for TEMPORARY FUN.

Many are willing to sacrifice their permanent dreams for temporary fun—

—but you must be willing to sacrifice temporary fun, which is fleeting, for your PERMANENT DREAMS.

"So then, let us not be like others, who are asleep, but let us be awake and sober."
— 1 Thessalonians 5:6 (NIV)

As a man, your ability to DELAY GRATIFICATION is critical for LONG-TERM success in any endeavor in life.

Mastering this ability will teach you the fundamentals of MASCULINITY, which are self-sacrifice, discipline, perseverance, and doing the hard work—regardless of how you feel.

"Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope."
— Romans 5:3-4 (ESV)

Remember

Anything WORTH HAVING almost always hurts you upfront but then gives you long-term pleasure—

—but anything that gives you pleasure upfront almost alway hurts you long-term.

In other words, pain in the front end equals PLEASURE in the back end—

—and pleasure in the front end equals PAIN in the back end.

"They do it to [for] a prize that will fade away, but we do it for an eternal prize."
— 1 Corinthians 9:25 (NLT)

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