Discipline & Fortitude

"Hey, I was dating this girl, and she asked for space, so I went no contact for nine days. She finally reached out, saying she had changed her mind, but she seemed distant, contacting me only once every week or so. The last time she wanted to talk, I missed her call. When I called back, we talked for five minutes, and I told her we'd talk later because I was busy. Two days later, I texted her about meeting up. It's been two weeks, and I haven't heard from her. I haven't called her either because she seems distant, and I felt I should mirror her actions to maintain polarity. What should I do?"

— Jack Zamàñi, private group member

Here's some food for thought: 👉 LET HER GO 👈.

The writing is on the wall.

She's no longer invested in you.

She's no longer interested.

She no longer CARES.

Perhaps you've heard the expression, "Out of sight, out of mind."

At some point, she LOST her attraction and is now simply USING YOU for a free dopamine hit of attention and validation.

That's reality.

"Actions are the greatest indicator of intent, so judge by actions, not words. Behavior is the only reliable evidence of motivation. By her fruits, you will recognize her."

— God Pill Maxim

Listen, I Get It...

We men are STUBBORN, forever determined to push forward—to rise to the challenge, hoping against hope—even when it defies our better judgment.

So, if you're still determined to press on, what actions can you take?

At this stage, I recommend shifting to "STRATEGIC PRESENCE."

That's right—contrary to popular opinion, it may actually be beneficial to INCREASE your presence—

—just don't become TOO present.

The key here is 👉 BALANCE 👈—

—and the good news is, there's a way to achieve it.

Here's What I Suggest

Reach out to her ONCE with something short, simple, and sweet.

Something that doesn't require investment, commitment, or even a response—just something light-hearted and fun.

Something that triggers positive emotions.

Nothing heavy.

Don't overthink it.

This is just to get the ball rolling...

After that:

⚠️ DO NOT call her.
⚠️ DO NOT text her.
⚠️ NOTHING.

Simply wait...

⚠️ ZERO CONTACT! ⚠️

"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."

— Song of Solomon 2:7 (NIV)

Hear me now: A woman is like a cat; you cannot negotiate her feelings or desires.

You must "release her" and let her return of her OWN VOLITION.

If she doesn't, she lacks 👉 GENUINE DESIRE 👈—

—and it's best to AVOID women who lack genuine desire anyway.

It's an UPHILL BATTLE, and trust me—that's a hill you don't want to die on.

SO, BE PATIENT!

After planting the seed, you must give it TIME TO GROW. 🌳

It won't be easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is—so give her the gift of missing you.

Because—ultimately—the most compelling way to capture her attention is to take YOURS away.

Let your absence increase her RESPECT and HONOR—

—and only re-engage ⚠️ AFTER ⚠️ she RESPONDS.

Remember, if she's into you, she'll find a WAY; if not, she'll find an EXCUSE.

"When a woman has genuine desire, she will make it obvious; there is no guesswork."

— God Pill Maxim

Here's the CRITICAL PART

When (and if) she replies, greet her with confidence, good vibes, and positive energy.

❌ DON'T bring up the past.
❌ DON'T mention her distant behavior.
❌ DON'T ask why she took so long to respond.

There's a time and place for that, but not here.

"Women want to play the game; they don't want to be told they are playing a game."

— Red Pill Maxim

Lay off the "tactics" and don't pretend to be busy.

Simply welcome her with positivity, optimism, and good spirits—

—but don't immediately push for the meetup.

Again, DO NOT push for the meetup.

Pushing too soon will only serve to PUSH HER AWAY.

It's predictable and boring—she's seen it all before.

So, play it cool, brother.

Appeal to her emotions—

—and prove you can engage without an agenda.

"A genuine Christian is desirable by default, since his highest priority isn't women—but God."

— God Pill Maxim

Remember

Absence is a tool—

—but it's not the ONLY tool.

Balance is CRITICAL.

And you BALANCE hot and cold polarity by staying focused, patient, and silent until you hear from her ("absence")—

—but responding with engagement, positive vibes, and good spirits when you do ("presence").

This, my friend, will make her MISS YOU. 💪

"Pursuing a woman who is distant and closed off is kind of like showing up at your favorite restaurant a minute after they close. Let's say they serve until 8 p.m., and you show up at 8:01. When you walk in the door, they say something like, 'Oh, so sorry, but we're actually closed. Our kitchen is closed, so please come back tomorrow.' Now, just like in a romantic relationship, if you were in this situation in real life, it would be absolutely ludicrous and entitled to insist that you be served. It's only a minute after closing time, but it is technically after closing time. Whether it's an inch or a mile, out of bounds is out of bounds, and expecting that an exception is going to be made for you is a little narcissistic and absurd. That said, it would be just as ludicrous and entitled for the restaurant to expect that you're not going to eat until tomorrow just because their kitchen is closed. So, what do you do in this real-life situation? You say, 'Oh, absolutely, completely understand. Enjoy the rest of your night. I'm gonna see what else is open at this hour, and I'll come back another time.' And you take your hunger where people are willing to serve you. It's that simple."

— Dr. Orion Taraban, PsycHacks

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